Sunday, March 21, 2010
Why must we sugar coat everything including our cookies?
So after a long week of reflecting I have come to realize that we women are all messed up because of each other. Well just kidding...but only to a point. In church last week I felt this weird oddness as we were talking about great things our spouses do for us. Wow I thought how come jake doesn't give me a massage and cook dinner every night and buy me flowers 50 times a week like all these womens husbands do? Sarcasm included if you couldn't tell. I actually didn't think that but what I did think was is there life really that fairy tale-ish or are they covering something else going on. Jake came home after church and we had the exact conversation about it because he was even more bugged than me. Given it is great to know that your spouse does great things but I wanted somebody to get up in the middle of class and just say "MY MARRIAGE ISN'T PERFECT!" Thank you! I love Jake so much and he serious does so much for me but man we fight and bicker about stupid stuff, I get upset, we are both stressed out sometimes. Why doesn't anybody say that? Either your marriage is a fairy tale or you have to go to major counciling because you are on the brink of getting divorced it seems. It just made me realize this week how much I love my ordinary, amazing, crazy, obnoxious at times husband. I love him because he loves me and my ordinary, amazing, crazy, and mostly obnoxious self! Thanks hunny for putting up with me when I don't always have dinner ready, there is a messy house because of tests this week, and when I whine because I had a hard day.
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I'll admit it my marriage isn't perfect!!! I tried to have Eric make dinner tonight, and it was torture, I must have explained the recipe exactally 10 times before I just let the baby cry and helped him. If you think you're marriage is going to be all lovey-dovey all the time you are dreaming! That's life :)
Oh my goodness! I sooo agree with you! :) Thanks for saying it!
ahhh, Jared and I were just talking about this. I've been in a rut in the romanctic feelings toward my husband catagory...and we were talking abotu a way to fix this. I feel like my biggest problem was comparing the things my friends say about their husbands and I finally had to come to the realization that they only tell me the good stuff! ha ha wish we lived closer we could double date and talk about our imperfect marriages and toast that we are happily in love anyways!
Haha, what you have to do is move into the basement of your parents (like me) and go to an older married ward. . . then reality sets in. But I know how you feel- you'll be happy to know that we are normal and don't get flowers!
amen sista!
you've addressed a huge problem in life and in the blogosphere. i was shocked when i moved to Utah by the way people (especially women) try to appear perfect. there is no such thing as a perfect marriage (or perfect life)and you are so wise to recognize that. the grass in NOT greener on the other side. and if you think marriage isn't perfect- just wait till you have kids ;). here's to keepin in real cuz!
I agree with Kalisha! Once you get to a family ward, you hear about all the bad stuff everybody elses hubbys do, and you feel a little better about your imperfect but incredibly perfect for you marriage. Luke will NEVER be the romantic, love-dovey, hold my hand just because kinda spouse, but it's all good....I'm not always a peach either! Love ya sis- and I'm so glad you married my completely obnoxious (but cute) little brother.
Thanks guys. I am not one to bash on my husband by any means but he has his faults. Everyone does!
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